Posted by Kath on March 5, 2009, at 19:39:15
In reply to Re: HELP..Facebook..looking back...should I do that? » Bobby, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on March 5, 2009, at 17:30:04
>I feel another sadness too, that is everyone else is married and has kids or such. (Well, not *everyone*) But, that is envy, something I shouldn't be a part of.
~ ~ Dear Jay - I can relate, in a certain kind of way. I belong to a pottery guild & when I'm at the studio, I hear SO many people talking about their kids - Oh, yes, she's in her final year at teachers' college; he's getting married in the spring & they're going to buy a house; I'm gonna be a grandma in April.......etc etc.
I end up feeling AWFUL. I guess there's some self-pity & some envy & some resentment.....it really hurts to hear those things when my reality is my 25 yr old son having drug-induced schizophrenia, substance abuse issues, no job, living in our basement rec-room - what hope for the future...etc.I can relate to feeling sad that 'everyone else' has kids who are doing FINE & what feels like a 'normal' life. I think it's important for us to remember that NOT everyone else is doing just FINE. I suspect that most people/most families have problems of one sort or another. They're not going to post them on Facebook & they're probably not going to talk openly about them at the pottery studio! But yes, it does hurt anyway to be exposed to that type of thing when we have such very very deep pain & trauma about these things.
I'm sorry for your pain Jay. xo Kath
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