Posted by Lemonaide on August 14, 2008, at 18:32:33
In reply to Re: Freedom of Speech and blogs, posted by AbbieNormal on August 12, 2008, at 12:41:11
As for my T's wife, I believe he is the one who is responsible for what he has done. He is the one who is hurting his wife, not me.
I think it is better to not blame the victim in all of this. He choose to be unethical and he is responsible for this behavior, not the client. If a victim puts a light on what happened under his care, it isn't the victim's fault he acted irresponsible, or if the people in his life find out what he does.
Look how his unethical behavior effected my family. It caused me to go into deep depression, so my kids didn't have the mom they always had, my husband has had to pay thousands of dollars of therapy for me now to overcome the abuse he caused, plus all the time it took away from my family for being so depressed because of what he did.
I feel bad for his wife, she is married to a big jerk, but the pain she feels if she even happens to read my poem, which is very unlikely, is nothing like the pain I have suffered being treated unethically as a client and then having my family deal with the fall out of this.
If I was being vindictive, I could have sued him, sent my poem to his wife, and done a number of other horrible things, all I did was write a poem on my personal blog. I didn't contact his wife to read it, or do anything else. My poem was for me, and me alone, not to do anything negative to anyone.
All I did was write a poem which helped me deal with the pain I suffered, and putting his name of it makes it feel real in my mind, like a tombstone.
Too many victims are told to not tell, sweep the abuse under the rug, or not believed even. Nothing in my poem is not true, if he doesn't like reading what he does during therapy, maybe he should stop doing it. I think it is time we place the blame on who caused this, which isn't the victim.
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