Posted by TexasChic on May 2, 2008, at 22:41:36
In reply to Re: It went well » TexasChic, posted by Kath on May 2, 2008, at 21:48:54
The plan is for him to stay with my Mom, no more than 2 weeks according to her apartment lease, and move out of his apartments where there is readily available crack and fellow crack users who know where he lives. I asked the T if he had any advice about breaking the lease, and he made my brother say that his life is more important than breaking a lease, which was a damn good point.
Also, at least two people at his work know the whole story and are very adamant about giving him support. Me and Mom are supposed to support without enabling (i.e. giving him money). I'm also going to help him find a cheap apartment in a better part of town, as I am a bit of an expert at that after research for myself. The one he's in isn't even cheap, but has prostitutes and crack users wandering around. I told him he might have to go with something really really small, and he said the smaller the better as far as he is concerned.
He's also supposed to find a sponsor through NA, and expand his group of friends (clubs and stuff) so that he has something to direct his energies toward when he feels like giving in to the cravings.
He went in voluntarily and is asking for help, which I think is why he's being released so soon. And the doctor stressed that he had to have a plan (the stuff above) for when he WILL feel like relapsing.
I feel fairly good about it, but I know its ultimately all up to him. I see so much of my earlier self in him, its all so hard. I just hope he finds his inner strength, I think that's all that will save him in the end. That's what saved me. I had a lightbulb moment when I realized the only way I could fail was to give up. As long as I keep trying to get where I want to be, I'm still in the game. If I give up, that's the ONLY sure way to NEVER get there. I hope he can learn that.
-T
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