Posted by Kath on April 27, 2008, at 18:59:56
In reply to I might should add..., posted by TexasChic on April 26, 2008, at 21:52:26
Dear TC -
I think that when someone is using something as destructive as meth or cocaine, like Fayeroe said, it actually affects their 'morality'.
We cannot do ANYthing to help them think more clearly, I don't think. I guess if we pray, we can pray. Hopefully if they go to rehab, they might really look at themselves & decide what valules to keep & what ones don't work for them.
I think the negative changes really have to do with the drugs' effects on the person. I see a difference in my son when he is NOT using cocaine. Then when he's started using cocaine, he changes back again. Then when he stops, he changes yet again! So there IS hope of your brother changing back, once he's succeeded in stopping using meth.
Probably one of the most important things you can do is to do whatever you can to take care of YOU. That way you'll be as strong as you can to deal with whatever you have to deal with. (As I'm saying this, I'm hearing it for myself also!!)
love, Kath
> ...we were raised in an intensely rigid religious environment. It was impossible to live up to the expectations. While my sister and I fell away from the church, we both seemed to keep our morals. But my brother seems to be questioning even that. I just don't know how to explain to him that even though all we were taught was extreme and over the top, there were some things about it that were right... being the good guy no matter how much it may seem the opposite is deserved... not hurting others... not seeking revenge...that we are in control of our own destinies...no matter what is thrown at us, we still have a choice. It seems like he no longer believes even the basics. I just don't know how to teach him otherwise, other than through example.
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> -T
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