Posted by Happyflower on February 2, 2008, at 20:39:57
In reply to Re: Learning who your friends are and are not /HF, posted by rskontos on February 2, 2008, at 18:45:37
I think I used to trust too easily because I wanted to believe people are good, but would get hurt over and over. Now I see the signs and characteristics of what I want to avoid an I do, to protect my heart. I tend to over trust people, but now that I am older, I am more careful of who I trust. But I can still trust fully, but I think it takes time with people. You give them a little more of your trust each time you can, and eventually you find that you trust them. Now I did that with my old T, and I saw what happened there. But I have 2 very good close friends who accept me for me, and who have been there for me, and me for them. They want friendship as much as me and it is cool. Now I have a lot more friends who are more casual, I see at school, friendly crazy type. I have some that I have developed deeper levels with at the gym, but I can't get too involved because they are my old T's friends too, so I hold back a little. I do think most people are good, I really do, of course we are all capable of hurting others, but some center their lives around it. When it is done to children, it really pisses me off. But it feels better to be an adult now because I don't have to put up with that anymore, I am free at least physically. My mom is still a threat who could show up at my door at any time. Even my currentT, who plans on moving to that state she is in now, only a few miles away from where he grew up and wants to go back to, it scares him to have her so close, and my old T said she is one scary bitch, so I don't think many thing too differently than me, some people you just need to stay away from.
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