Posted by PhoenixGirl on July 22, 2007, at 2:29:10
A *little* cheating, not excessive, I might add. I don't think you can own another person's body, and sex with the same person for life sounds downright boring. In fact, I think it might even be healthy to have a sexual partner on the side occasionally. When sex with someone is *too* available, it's not as alluring anymore, and monogamy makes sex with your partner too available.
Science has shown that monogamy is very rare in mammals and is not normal in primates like us humans. We have to force ourselves to be monogamous.
To me, the key is that the two partners in a relationship are #1 to each other, and affairs are on the side. I also believe the partners should be honest with each other about affairs and should practice safe sex. And there definitely should not be double standards for men and women when it comes to affairs! Men get away with too damn much, and women don't get away with enough.
That said, if I fell in love with a man and he wanted monogamy, I'd compromise and be monogamous to keep him. But I'd take sex breaks to help keep us from taking each other for granted.
America is way to puritan about the subject of sexual fidelity for my tastes.
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