Posted by TexasChic on April 21, 2007, at 19:53:23
In reply to An Open Letter to Babblers - please read, posted by Daisym on April 21, 2007, at 17:38:44
> I find myself wanting to write something stupid like, "can't we all just get along?" But I really feel that way.
Me too. The phrase has been turned into a joke, but the original sentiment is no joking matter.
I hate that anyone has gotten hurt here. But this is a format destined for miscommunication. Combine that with the highly sensitive souls that populate this place and how can the result be anything other than what it is? All we can do is try to keep all this in mind, and try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Not every situation is going to work out, but I think we can at least attempt to steer things in the right direction.
I've found that if you try to be reasonable and non-confrontational with people, then they will usually respond in the same way. Most people aren't here to fight. If someone gets upset with you and you give a sincere apology for what must have been a misunderstanding (or for losing your temper - lets face it, it happens), 9 times out of 10 they will calm down and also apologize. I know its not easy, I'm not saying it is. If it was there wouldn't be any problem.
I'm in no way directing this towards anybody, I've just seen it happen over and over again here - people getting upset over what to me looks like a breakdown in communication. I've just always refrained from saying anything. Hopefully this doesn't come off all preachy and judgmental - I just felt the need to try to communicate what I was feeling.
-T
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