Posted by TexasChic on February 28, 2007, at 22:23:13
Somewhere earlier I wrote about how my boss wrote these notes of appreciation and posted them outside our offices (they had just supplied us with these forms to do so) and she told my co-worker "You are an important part of our team!" and mine said "Thanks for always trying so hard!" (I can't remember the exact words of my boss's notes, you'll have to take my word that it was a sort of unintentional insult). Anyway, one of my other co-workers said, "Whoa that was a backhanded compliment". She's a really sweet lady and it didn't come off as her trying to start something, more like a shared confidence between the two of us. So I was a bit tiffed for a little while.
However, even though it initially irritated me, ('trying' implies 'not succeeding') it was obvious that she was attempting to give me a compliment. I managed to keep my 'inner-bitch' quiet.
So tomorrow is my review. I feel better knowing that I at least got across to her that her comments made me feel like she thought I was goofing off. She has expressed that she knows I'm doing my best. To me, being accused goofing off is the worst of the worst! To be accused of not trying or being lazy!?!? I'm sure there's some psychological reason behind that, but I don't feel like pursuing it right now.
The bad thing is, I know she's going to come up with some warped perspective of how I need to improve. So PLEASE SEND GOOD VIBES for me! Good vibes that I hold my temper, keep my 'inner-bitch' quiet, be as positive as possible and turn any negative feelings into something positive. And just to keep me humble, I HAVE to remember I'm very lucky to have this job!!! No matter what the negatives, the positives far outweigh them! So its time to suck it up and play the game. I believe I can succeed.
-T
poster:TexasChic
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