Posted by Jo U.K on January 28, 2007, at 9:20:51
In reply to Re: How much do you share with friends? » caraher, posted by Phillipa on January 27, 2007, at 17:03:01
Hi Danna, your post was interesting to me as I have always been like you and told friends, even not very close friends, pretty much everything that was going on, and I've had the same reaction afterwards, when I felt slightly ridiculous for having banged on to them about something and then realised later that I should not been so eager to tell all. It's tough when you're an open kind of person. I never seem to have anything good to say about my husband and kids, when actually I adore them, they are in fact great, but I would hate to come across as flashy so I tend to do them down to others. People must think my husbands an ogre! I quite recently moved to a new area and I decided to sit back and listen more and not give new people a whole run down of myself and life, which would invariably involve my playing down the good stuff and poking fun at myself. If someones talking about an argument with their partner for example, I now listen hard and try to be understanding without regaling them with my own bust ups and I dont list my husbands faults at least without listing a few of my own! I feel much more dignified and in control like this, the only exception being my 2 very close friends, whom I know I can tell anything and not regret it. I guess my advice is, be a little choosey who you tell your problems to. It's nice to offload stuff but if you feel you've over done it and you have given someone the wrong impression, you could always go back to them later and say something like " Hey, sorry I offloaded that on you earlier, I was feeling pretty down on my boyfriend at the time and actually he's not a bad fella at all! I guess I was just having a bit of a moan there!" Dont be too hard on yourself.
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