Posted by Kath on January 26, 2007, at 16:26:51
In reply to My parents hid all the aspirin and Advil, posted by Deneb on January 26, 2007, at 16:08:28
> I have a small headache and I went to get some Advil, but I discovered my parents hid them from me.
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> My Mom calls me several times a day now.
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> When will I gain their trust again?
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> Deneb*Hi Deneb,
First, I think it's good that the pills are out of easy reach for moments of impulsivity.
Second, I'm sorry you have a headache.
Third, it'll take a while for them to feel OK but I don't think it's necessarily a matter of trust.
They're worried about you & want to have your home be a 'safe place' for you. They're concerned about how you're feeling, hence the phonecalls.
When my son was in that bad state, I was calling daily - not because I didn't trust him, but because I knew he felt awful, wanted him to know I cared about him, wanted to reach out to him. I was also scared & needed to hear his voice so I'd know he was OK.
A very natural result of what happened is that your parents are going to worry about you. That can't be helped. My son could say, (and did) "don't worry about me Mom. I don't want you to worry." Do you think that did any good????
Nope - I WORRIED!!!
Just maybe try to relax & interpret the calls as them caring about you rather than not trusting you. And keep in mind, there are various ways of acting when worried. Worry can come out as angry, pestering, hovering, to name a few.
You can make a choice: you can interpret your parents' behaviour from a negative angle or from a positive angle. Why not choose the positive?
hugs, Kath
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