Posted by ClearSkies on November 1, 2006, at 15:44:08
In reply to Losing it..how it is...some other thoughts???, posted by Jay on November 1, 2006, at 7:23:39
Jay, I hope that you can put this experience behind you. I also hope that you can find it within yourself to stop looking for your life partner. You have so much love to give, so many life lessons to share, so much loss and pain that still needs mending. You have likely heard this over and over: "learn to love yourself before you ask anyone else to love you". This is true - and the love you feel for yourself will be unconditional. Then you will be open to love from others.
When we present ourselves as less than, or incomplete without, then we challenge those we befriend. Can you complete me? Can you make me more whole? If someone asked that of me, I would not be able to accept. I barely think enough of myself to bathe every day, for goodness' sake.
What I read, what I hear in my head when I read your posts, is that you want nothing more than to share your life and your love with someone else. The challenge, I believe, is in asking of ourselves to be enough. When we no longer crave, or long for, the passionate love of another person, they present themselves to us. I believe that when you can say that you are ok, fine, happy, satisfied... as Just Jay, then others around you will know this too. And it is very attractive to find someone who is happy just being themselves.
I do care about you Jay. I have read your posts for a long time now, and I only wish you the most happiness and the very best for yourself.
CS
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