Posted by wishingstar on July 26, 2006, at 15:47:19
In reply to I cry during and after sex, posted by Joan797 on July 25, 2006, at 19:55:26
Hi Joan, I dont have much intelligent to add, but I just wanted to say that I can relate. I am young (in my 20s) and unmarried, but I am in a long-term relationship in which I only have sex maybe once every 3-4 months. I too am not particularly attracted to my partner anymore, and I really believe this is the (biggest) cause. It's hard for such an intimate act to NOT feel violating if you really dont feel positively for the person. Of course that is not true for everyone - some people have no problem with casual sexual relationships, and that's perfectly fine - but for me, and maybe you, it just doesnt work the way I wish it did. I know the feeling of doing it just because you feel like you need to (as you mentioned in another response). Like I said, no great advice.. just that you're not alone. I'm sorry you're feeling so badly about it.
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