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change happens » Michael83

Posted by pseudoname on July 10, 2006, at 10:54:11

In reply to Re: I'm only 4 years out of high school and alread » Gabbi~G, posted by Michael83 on July 10, 2006, at 0:53:52

> But the ultimate point is that they're no longer the people they were before.

It sounds like you're missing some people who've matured a little since you last spent time with them; their younger selves were more fun in some ways. I'm sorry about that. When people change, we can feel the loss just like they'd gone away or died.

I remember that experience, too. Running into people, especially some that I didn't know very well in high school, and seeing how much they'd calmed down and become slow and low-key in just a few years. It was a little unsettling. I wondered, "Are you *really* the same person??"

But it turns out that it's not an entirely bad thing when the change happens to you.

> It will be sad to see all the people I onced admired change to much.

Maybe. But people who don't mature can be pretty boring, too.

I respect adolescents and what they're going through, but a lot of the interests, prejudices, and enthusiasms I had then are TRULY BORING to me now: shallow, ignorant, bigoted, tasteless, uncomprehending, and tempestuous.

It can really be scary to look at the things that lie in wait for you. I wish I could give you a hug because it's going to be okay.

> I vow to myself that I will not change or become worn out and boring.

The changes are inevitable, although you will NOT be boring — except to people whose opinions on the subject you will absolutely not care about any more. You wake up one morning and it's happened: you're different, in exactly the way you swore you'd never be.

The important thing is that you're not alone in any of it.


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