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Re: Well I am just a big loser again.Can I get a hand? » Kath

Posted by Jay on May 21, 2006, at 16:10:08

In reply to Re: Well I am just a big loser again.Can I get a hand? » Jay, posted by Kath on May 21, 2006, at 11:52:20

> Oh dear - you're being so hard on yourself!!!! Everyone want to be loved & accepted. I agree that it might be good to try to be more relaxed & maybe low-key next time.
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> You sound like a really nice person. It's hard to meet others who 'click' with us. I've had this happen in the past (even though it's some years ago now).
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> Just a note also from my own experience - some people have bad reactions to fragrances (expensive AND inexpensive). I get bad headaches & sinus pain from colognes, aftershaves etc. My daughter has severe reactions to fragrances. I'm not saying that that's why things worked out as they did, but just wanted to mention it for general information purposes.
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> Don't give up Jay & please try not to be so down on yourself. I don't know if you have any particular interests or hobbies, but groups where people are interested in the same things are good places to meet people in a low-stress setting & be able to check each other out in a relaxed way. That way you can also ask someone who you seem to 'click' with to join in something that you know they're interested in...not so much emphasis on the 2 people but rather on doing something mutually enjoyable.
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> I hope you're feeling somewhat better about things by today.
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> :-)))) Kath
>

Hi Kath...

Thanks so much for the kind positive vibes. All of your points are excellent and valid. It's just I tend to get very irrational when I pursue romance.

The only way I've been able to meet woman, and actually got a 2 1/2 year relationship out of one, is through telephone or internet dating services. Otherwise, it's hard to meet people. I am 36, so I don't really fit into the 'bar scene' anymore.

There is really no 'answer' for me...it's just a matter of working it through. I should remember my past lessons a bit more though when it comes to this stuff.

Yes, I know what you mean about the cologne. But honestly, I only had a drop on.

Thanks...take care...
Jay :-)



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