Posted by jammerlich on May 13, 2006, at 8:37:54
In reply to Re: I can't help it, I have to ask » jammerlich, posted by NikkiT2 on May 13, 2006, at 6:42:36
Is that I think my husband is gay. And I have for the better part of our 11 year marriage.
The underwear I speak of? Thongs. He wore them several years ago and finally stopped because I told him I really hated them. Sorry, but I've never known a straight man to wear them.
The thing that scares me the most? I asked him about it 5 or 6 years ago and can't really remember what his answer was. I seem to recall something about being curious, but I'm not sure. I also can't remember my exact question. I have a hard time being direct, so I doubt I asked, "Are you gay?"
As far as the shaving goes, he's not an athlete, so that's not the explanation. And he literally does shave just about everything. My husband, the hairless wonder. Yay.
He also closes his laptop or whatever screen he's on when I come into the room. That makes me super suspicious. I've been keeping an eye on the credit card and bank statements and don't see anything out of the ordinary, though. I did ask him about this a couple of days ago. First, he lied and told me it was my imagination. Then he said he was doing it because he was looking at religious sites, trying to figure out if he really thought there was a god and he was afraid of what I'd think. Personally, I think it's horseshit because he KNOWS I question the existence of god too, so I can't see how he'd think I'd care if he investigated. I already don't trust him very much and the fact that his first inclination was to lie makes me trust him even less.
I feel so foolish, thinking of myself as the woman who potentially married the gay man.
Is it just me, or do lots of babble marriages seem to be falling apart right now?
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