Posted by deirdrehbrt on April 6, 2006, at 21:15:20
In reply to Re: unexpected divorce » Bobby, posted by trucker on April 6, 2006, at 20:54:01
I'm not going to say there is an easy way to handle this. I don't think there is. It's like half of your body decided it didn't want to be with you anymore. For me, when my marriage broke up, I lost my identity. I didn't know who I was anymore, and my Bipolar just took off.
In the end, after lots of therapy and some hospitalizations (Not saying it's going to be this bad for you, it's just my story) I started to figure out who I was. Now, at least I don't depend on others to figure out who I am.
I haven't got back to the point where I could actually be in a relationship with someone else yet, but at least I have a relationship with me. The divorce actually gave me a chance to start developing my own identity. My childhood had been spent trying to figure out who other people wanted me to be, and that's who I was. In a sense, my divorce was a gift.
Is he 100% certain it's over? Are you? Would you trust him if he said he changed his mind? Does he have a good reason WHY? a good reason WHY NOW? Why after the move, and not before uprooting you? Does he plan on sticking you with all of the bills, or is he going to take on his share?
Again, I've lifted you up in my prayers. I hope that something good comes of this for you. Some say that we make our own fate, and I hope that you soon become clear enough to make something of this mess.
--Dee
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