Posted by JenStar on January 31, 2006, at 9:39:46
In reply to Re: guess who got the job? (trigger?who the f*ck knows » sleepygirl, posted by crazy teresa on January 29, 2006, at 15:10:23
hi sleepgirl,
I'm SO sorry this happened to you. Your friend, from the way you describe it, sounds like the kind of person who takes advantage and then gets away with it because she's a "friend."Here's what I would do:
First, CALL the interviewer and politely ask for a few minutes of their time. Thank him/her in person for the opportunity. Tell him/her that you're EXTREMELY interested in their company, and would like to work there in the future. Ask him/her why you were not hired, and ask for tips on how to improve your skills in the future so that you COULD be hired. Be extremely friendly and non-defensive (it might be hard!) The person will be sort of "on the spot" and you want honesty from them so you know what to work on. You could even tell them that: "I would like to know what to work on, so I can improve my skills and be more competitive next time I interview. Can you help give me some tips on what the other candidate demonstrated that made her the right fit for the job?"
Listen, take notes (even if you disagree), and thank him/her.
Like others mentioned, then send a thank-you note to the interviewer, and remind him/her that you'd love a chance to interview in the future, and you admire their company.
About your friend -- I would not send her a congrats note. I'd meet with her and say face to face, "It hurt me that you interviewed and GOT the same job I wanted. I understand that jobs are fair game, but it hurt me. Why did you do it?"
Put HER on the spot!
Anyway, I'm sorry this happened.
take care,
JenStar
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