Posted by alexandra_k on January 6, 2006, at 22:27:55
In reply to Re: Just my opinion..., posted by TexasChic on January 6, 2006, at 21:55:22
> I've been thinking about this in reference to politics too.
:-)
> I was thinking how sometimes a law gets someone who has good intentions and everyone knows it, but it has to be emplemented if you want to be able to use it on the people who really deserve it too.
hmm.
the civility rules don't make mention of peoples 'intention' in posting their incivility...
why?
how on earth is intention supposed to be assessed?
i think... it does come into it a little...
with respect to leniency
(and i do think some was shown because the block wasn't double or triple length)
but yeah...the point there...
i think the point was more that anybody here would get pbc'd / blocked for calling another poster here manipulative. for saying they are just playing games.
and i'm glad of that.
because i would feel really very hurt should someone tell me that that is what i'm doing :-(
even if i said it about myself first :-(
if i see myself in that way...
then i am likely to beat myself up...
leading to increased distress...
leading to more unhelpful behaviours...and thus things deteriorate.
i think things may have gone better if people focused on *why* she was afraid to ask for help. and on how it might be appropriate to ask for help. and on how she might do that (concrete suggestions). and... ignored the rest. i think that would have had a better outcome...
> You can't just use it only when you agree with the situation. Its the only way to keep things impartial and fair.
yeah. or at least.. you have to try as best you can to do that.
> I find that a big problem with this country (US). People are all gung-ho (is that really a word?) when something 'they want' is being inforced. But when you use the same reasoning against something they don't want, they suddenly get all indignent.mmm
not just in the us methinks...
people in general...
> Okay, I said I was going to stop and go to bed, so now I am. Why do I get philsophical and political when I'm drunk. I think I'm a little weird.night night.
not weird.
you should see philosophers drink at conferences ;-)
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