Posted by rainbowbrite on October 2, 2005, at 10:56:07
In reply to Serious question, need answers, posted by Angela2 on October 1, 2005, at 13:43:55
> If you like people and like being a little social, what do you do to be social. How are you social?
you hanging out with friends, you enjoy talking to people and meeting new people and learning about others.
>> How do you make friends?
socializing with people, say at work for ex. after you feel a sort of comfort around someone...maybe ask them if they want to go for coffee. Also finding comon interests between you and someone else can turn into a friendship, for ex. 2 people like art they could get involved in something artistic together or 2 people like sports they could join something together.
>>How do you keep them?
continue to hang out with them, Its important to be open to the friendship and you make a person feel like you trust them when you open up a little to them (i dont mean tell them your problems, but be open about other things) Maybe sharing your interests. Making people feel important is key as well.
>>Is it possible to just not like people?
Or has my social anxiety tricked me into believing I don't like them?Absolutely, but I agree that social anxiety could have tricked you or anyone into thinking they are not social.
When you meet people for the first time do you think you won't like them or they wont like you or do you assume they are generally a good, nice person who you will like? that is another way of being more open to people. When I meet someone I assume they are someone I will get along with, it is not until after I have gotten to know them that I make the decision that yes I like or no I don't.
>>If anyone has any advice or info I would appreciate it.
>I seem to have answered this differnet from everyone else so I hope I didnt go off on a tangent.
hope this helps
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