Posted by alexandra_k on August 28, 2005, at 18:30:48
In reply to Re: extinction of behavior and negative punishment » alexandra_k, posted by gardenergirl on August 28, 2005, at 18:15:46
> > Change is hard.
> > And it can be really very hard to find appropriate alternative means of expression...
> very trueyeah. and it can be really hard to figure it out. hard for the person who is doing it. hard for the other people who are trying to help the person understand. hard work. lots of effort. not a lot of visible improvement. progress can seem slow. can seem non-existent at times. it can feel like you are bashing your head up against a brick wall... going round in circles, getting worse even...
but how much worse for the person who feels alienated and like they are ununderstandable?
i wouldn't go back there for worlds...
and its the hardest thing in the world to try and face by yourself
:-(
it is hard...
and improvement... does happen. the frequency of episodes. the duration of episodes. the intensity of episodes.
its just that sometimes its not as fast as we'd like / hope and so we don't see the improvement.
i'm not trying to explain it away.
just saying that attempts at understanding
or at the very least compassion
are never wasted.thats not to say that people don't have to face the consequences of their behaviour...
its just to say that that is hard enough without other people blaming...
not that i think you are.
i'm just worried that others might be...
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