Posted by Tamar on June 8, 2005, at 19:52:10
In reply to This is Drivel, maybe, but it feels good to voice » Tamar, posted by Susan47 on June 7, 2005, at 23:20:21
> Something about me seems to put men into defense mode. More when they're with their women, and women tend to be unfriendly towards me at first, when they get to know me, they're good.. that doesn't happen much, anymore, though. I've learned how to let myself come through enough, I've learned to be comfy with myself, and if a woman is stand-offish I can handle it well, now. I don't become angry or feel badly about myself. I used to. Now I just am learning, I guess, that not all men are potential enemies. Or something. Something that feels.. bad? Maybe men can be sweet, and kind, and humble .. there're so many insecure people out there. People are so mean to each other when they're insecure. They can be horrible. I guess, you know I think I've been around a lot of insecure men in my life. Too many. Never again. I can see them, now, a mile away, and I won't have anything to do with them. Even the nice ones.
I really think men are just people, like you or me. Some are good; some are not so good. Some are secure; some are less secure. Most men are good at times and bad at times, secure at times and insecure at other times. Just human.
Men are definitely not all potential enemies. Most of them are potential friends.
Men put on their pants one legs at a time, just like me or you. Of course they can be sweet and kind and humble... they're just people. I don't think they're a mystical Other... Women and men are far more alike than different. I’m convinced that part of learning to live with the opposite sex is to accept them as just as human as ourselves.
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