Posted by 10derHeart on May 17, 2005, at 21:56:17
In reply to that went well.:) (nm), posted by alesta on May 17, 2005, at 13:57:55
Alesta,
I'm so confused.
I've reread several times, trying to see how Alex was taunting anyone. I can't for the life of me see it. Her post seemed innocent and neutral to me.
Is it when she asked if people were lost? I took that on its face, purely as a straight question, not putting anyone down or anything. As she stated, this stuff isn't commonly done and IS confusing. I assumed she genuinely wanted to know, so she could rephrase, help them, etc.
Is this just a huge misunderstanding? Or I am incredibly dense and have missed something?
I am more than willing to try and see it from another POV, if you feel like maybe explaining another way why you felt taunted...?
To me, your words and tone seemed a bit harsh, even hostile, and not supportive. I was so surprised. That seems completely unlike you, from all your wonderfully supportive threads I've seen here lately. :-( ??
This thread really bothered you, clearly. But I don't know why. I hate it when I don't *get* why a poster becomes upset about a thread. I learn so much more about how to coexist here with everyone when I do understand.
And the way this thread "went south," as Damos put it so well, well, it makes me very sad.
Because lately a few subjects I find fascinating or fun have run through my head. And I've been thinking to myself, "Wonder if this question, or subject, would be cool/fun/neat (sorry, my vocab is probably dating me) to post on social?" But I've hesitated, worried I'll seem foolish, or boring, or weird, or irritating. Much like the anxiety and doubts that grip me IRL from time to time.
Now I'm a bit more worried that I was right.
Feel free to ignore if rehashing this will lead to any violations of the board civility guidelines. I understand sometimes it's just better not to talk about stuff.
I just got so lost reading the dialog between you two. And sad, don't forget sad.
poster:10derHeart
thread:498245
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20050513/msgs/499203.html