Posted by sunny10 on May 5, 2005, at 8:13:43
In reply to Re: it never ends..i'm in trouble here.. » alesta, posted by fallsfall on May 4, 2005, at 20:40:45
I have a Narcissistic mother also.
I am older than you. I have had a downright crappy life because I didn't understand what you already know.
Save yourself.
I read your post about how you are tiptoeing around "walking on eggshells" is the cliche psychologists use and I thought of a book that may help you.
It is written for people who have had to deal with alcoholics or other sustance abusers, but their manipulative actions are very similar to a narcissist, so you should get a lot out of it.
We learn to tread carefully, and to care for them which makes us neglect our own needs. If this sounds like you, try "CoDependent No More" by Melodie Beaddy (I think that's how she spells her name).
There are parts that I ignore (and maybe I shouldn't- but I'm trying!), but a lot of what is in there has helped me to start making the decisions for myself that I have recently.
Take care of you first and foremost. If you can't get to Babble at the shelter, go to the library.
And if you can't do that, just take a babble break to take care of yourself in concrete ways that will ultimately get you where you want to be; including back on babble if that is what you want.
Big hugs, sweetie, we all support you,
sunny10
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