Posted by Susan47 on April 28, 2005, at 14:45:08
In reply to Re: i think i'm now realizing.. » Susan47, posted by alesta on April 27, 2005, at 23:02:33
I understand how a lifetime of childhood abuse leads us to repeat it over and over again in all our relationships. I think it's the relationship with ourself that's in real trouble, and the only way to heal it is to feel you're lovable, for the first time in your life. That feeling is hard to get from anybody, because having never gotten it from Mum and Dad, you don't know how to develop that feeling in someone else. You're always staying away from people, even in your early love relationships somehow you always always choose the bad men, the men who come to you first and have the least to offer, the ones who're "exciting", like Dad was. Dad was definitely exciting... because what you have left to hold is your shot nervous system.
Me, anyway. See, "you" is "me" and it might be you too, but I can't assume that.
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