Posted by sunny10 on April 18, 2005, at 14:22:09
In reply to Re: That was for » sunny10, posted by Toph on April 18, 2005, at 13:46:02
wife is probably just freaking out on all quarters because of the lumpectomy... I would do the same. Talk to her. Cry with her if you want to. Let her know you understand why she's crabby and that you don't blame her. Tell her you couldn't possibly undertand exactly what she is going through and that you wish you could just to be able to be that much more able to be of assistance. She's not talking THAT much about it with you because she knows that as a man, you can't understand. I'm sure she's talked some, but not nearly as much as she needs to. I know it stinks walking around on eggshells... I've done it a time or two myself. I hope things get better with you two soon.
I've just cut and will paste below the short version of what's going on with me...
"gosh, the story is long...
suffice it to say that we are "separated"...
-he physically hurt me (tried to strangle me)while he was drunk and we were having a silly argument in a hotel room on the second night of our mini-vacation down in New Orleans,
-I ran straight to the airport and took the next flight home,
-we have to break our lease that still has 15 mos left, they are threatening to sue for the entire $22,100.00 left on lease til it ends on 7/31/06.
-spent a week on my brother's couch (with my poor kitty in their unfinished basement),
-got a new apt.
With him promising no more drinking of hard alcohol, no using of coke, and some anger management classes/therapy, I am willing to give "us" another try.He vacillates between acting only businesslike over the lease termination situation and being loving/sorry/concilliatory, wanting to go to the anger management classes and talking about couples couselling while living separately, etc... He is talking the talk, but I have yet to see him start walking the walk...
So, I would rather be separated and working it out, but I am rather afraid that he is going to just disappear once the business stuff is concluded. I am torn between feeling that it could eventually wind up better than ever and that "we" only ever existed in my mind...
37 and still stupid...looking for a large enough hole to jump in and hide..."
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