Posted by Dinah on April 16, 2005, at 18:28:14
In reply to Re: I sent it to you 'cause » TofuEmmy, posted by AuntieMel on April 16, 2005, at 17:20:18
Chuckle.
That strategy has led me to more than a little distress, Mel. Addressing a post in the middle of a storm to the person who I knew and liked a lot and assumed would take it in the spirit it was intended. (In that they would realize that I *only* addressed it to them because I knew and liked them dearly and thought it would be safe to address them.)
I do not recommend that. Strangely the unwritten subtext is almost never ever understood in my experience and it led to one acrimonious friendship breakup and a few tense moments in other relationships before I realized that I'd better not use that technique any longer.
I still make a mistake now and then and use it, and still get the same results.
No one *ever* thanks me for liking and trusting them enough to address my comments to them. :)
Go figure.
(So, Mel, if I ever address a comment to you in the middle of a storm, realize I've just forgotten that that technique has never worked well for me.)
Forgive the aside. Your post jut brought up sad, yet self deprecating, memories for me.
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