Posted by rainbowbrite on April 1, 2005, at 12:34:59
In reply to Re: fingertip handshakes........ » rainbowbrite, posted by Dinah on April 1, 2005, at 10:03:07
> The moving along handshake I got was from my pastor when I very uncharacteristically thanked him for a fabulous Palm Sunday sermon. I imagine pastors have to get pretty adept at the moving along handshake, but I felt well and thoroughly dismissed since it began before I had a chance to open my mouth, and certainly before he had a chance to see that I was going to give a brief well done and move on myself. I don't care how good his sermons are now. If I'm moved to speak, it's from a distance too far away for a move along handshake.
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> But once I experienced it once, I had a reference point for vague feelings at other times. Now I percieve the move along handshake in contexts where no physical contact is even made, since the moving along handshake is as much a mindset as the actual physical steering. Once I get one from someone, I rarely come back for more. (I accuse my therapist of it from time to time, rightly I think - although of course no handshake is involved, but I do come back for more.)Ok I understand that, I would feel very insulted! I thought you were referring to more impersonal experiences. That seems very rude.
> As to when to avoid the kiss, watch the eyes. If they dart away before the kiss, they're hoping you suddenly get an itch and interrupt the kiss process. :)
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> (From a really good kiss dodger. Only the most determined kissers make it through my impenetrable physical contact barriers. Same is true for handshakes unless it's business related.)i hope you were meaning to be funny because I will feel really insensitive if you didn't but I laughed my butt off when I read this! -) I will wathc for the signs from now on, I have definatley come in to close to someone who didnt want my face in their face...and I felt really bad about it.
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