Posted by Dinah on March 26, 2005, at 20:12:11
In reply to Re: tis been awhile, posted by Tamar on March 26, 2005, at 19:49:52
I think if both parties agree, it's fine. As long as the kids don't get hurt. But I think it's very important that both parties do actually agree. So if you and your husband get together and say it's perfectly ok for you both if one or both of you have friendly sex with others, that's cool.
But I still don't think the other party should take one spouse's word for it. Spouses have been known to lie. I suggest a meeting where the whole thing is discussed openly and an agreement in principle is ironed out. That way no one gets hurt.
And hey, if a potential lover is willing to introduce you to his/her spouse and discuss planned activities, there can be no question of misunderstanding.