Posted by partlycloudy on March 22, 2005, at 6:59:32
In reply to So alone! -- what to do?, posted by PM80 on March 21, 2005, at 16:14:02
Hello, I'm partlycloudy and I don't know anyone either! Between moving too many times and relocating after divorce, I am far removed from my family and am at a loss as to just who I might call if I had the nerve to pick up the phone.
How do I cope? I have a very supportive husband, but I hate to use him like a crutch and to define who I am. When he is out of town (which is often) for business, that's when I really ruminate on how very alone I am, and it can easily get me down - especially on myself. I used to refer to myself as a LOSER because of this.
But I'm not a loser. I'm winning, every day I get to wake up. I try to fill those empty times with hobbies and activities just for me (instead of filling them with chores, which leave me in a cleaner home and full of resentment). If I had the nerve, I would try to volunteer at a local charity, or get a part time job.
As it is I do work full time, so I'm not completely isolated. I interact (apparently normally) with people all day every day. I don't socialize with my coworkers outside of work as our interests are at opposite ends of the pole.
Mostly, I use this place as my chance to connect with others. I have made many dear friends here. I've hade the opportunity to meet with a few of them - fantastic! Babble has allowed me to see how my depression and anxiety has contributed to my isolation, so I work hard with my therapist and p-doc to keep getting better.
Sorry for such a ramble, but I truly know how you feel, and want you to know that you're among friends here.