Posted by alexandra_k on March 19, 2005, at 17:10:16
In reply to Re: Happiness, posted by minnewa on March 18, 2005, at 22:46:57
Hey there :-)
> Sometimes I think happiness is an illusion.. No matter how you try to achieve it it still doesn't come..
Maybe that comes of believing that one doesn't deserve to feel happy. Because one doesn't believe that one is acceptable. There are things one has to do or be in order to deserve happiness. And so life becomes an attempt to be worthy. But no matter what we do we never feel good enough...
Yeah. Sometimes it can feel like that. Is it maybe because we think we need to achieve certain things in order to be happy and so we work for them and work for them... and then we either fail (and are unhappy) or we get them and still don't seem to feel happy...
I think that sometimes it is too easy to get caught up in 'if only I can do / get this then I will be happy'. When the only moment you can feel happy is NOW. And sometimes we just need to reflect on being here NOW. And being okay NOW. Just the way we are. And some things suck to be sure, but some things are good too. And in reflecting on the good one can feel a sort of inner happiness... But this is different from a rush of pleasure (hedonistic happiness) to be sure...
Maybe there are lots of different kinds of happiness.
Good feeling would be one...
An attitude we can adopt would be another...
etc etc.
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