Posted by KaraS on February 26, 2005, at 15:04:25
In reply to Re: Kara, my turn. How you are doing? » KaraS, posted by TamaraJ on February 26, 2005, at 9:01:49
Hi,
> -- You are very kind, thanks. I know I will still be able to visit babble. The emphathy, support and good advice have been a Godsend these past number of months. I had put my outside interests on hold for a while, but I think I just needed a break from it all. So, I will ease my way back in . . . slowly. Try not to go full force like I usually do.
Sounds like a good plan.
> -- The tapping sure didn't. I was tapping, and tapping and tapping . . . It just wouldn't stop the extreme agitation and racing thoughts I was experiencing. And, my boss was coming over for lunch that day. I was so worried that he'd get here and I would be all agitated and talking a mile a minute, etc. I finally had to take a Xanax. That worked - phew!
I think if it's that acute, the tapping probably won't work. I'd be very interested in hearing about someone who has been able to get that much of an effect that quickly. Thank God for Xanax for crisis situations!
I don't expect the tapping to help me get on Zoloft unfortunately. When a medication is causing something it's not a matter of your energy being blocked, so what good could the tapping do? At least that's the way that I'm looking at it. I don't really know if that is the case.
> -- I guess your friend has never heard of the concept "less is more" :-) How can people be so oblivious? Well, to get a message across that might sink in, you could always send a picture of her living room to Oprah for her "The Ugliest Room in America" segment. Now, if Oprah says it's ugly, then she'll have to wake up and smell the coffee! (double meow). But seriously, at least you know you can be blunt and honest with her about things. That will make a big difference when you are sharing a place with her. I hope it works out for you.
That's so funny that you mentioned Oprah's ugliest room shows because I have really wanted to send in a picture of her livingroom. It would win hands down!! It's far uglier than anything I've seen on Oprah. My friend would be extremely upset about it though so I haven't done it. I'll just have to continue with my subtle messages ("Those drapes are atrocious! Please tell me you're not going to put those up in the new house!") :-)
I just heard bad news earlier this morning though. The deal is off. The sleezoid realtor accepted a higher offer - and this is after my friend already put money down! That should be illegal but apparently it isn't. My friend is up there at the complex now looking at some more units. It actually may end up better for me as she's now looking at 2 car gargages and one that has a second bedroom with a big walk-in closet.
Keep your fingers crossed for us!
> -- Crisis averted. I managed to calm down, in spite of the fact that my dog, every ten minutes or so, kept running from the front door to the patio door barking. She never barks, and every time she did, I just about jumped out of my skin. I had a flashback to when I was ten years old and I was home alone with my baby brother while I parents had gone to the store. So, I'm sitting there and these two guys come to the door. One of the says "Is your daddy home?" No. "Is your mommy home?" No. "Well, we've come to rob the house!" I went nuts! Screaming and yelling, and terrified that they would hurt my baby brother who I had been entrusted to take care of. Anyway, the next door neighbors (aunt and uncle who are not really but called that because they are such good friends) come running over. This guy is totally embarrassed, and finally manages to tell us that he was just there to pick up field markers for an upcoming soccer tournament (my dad was very active in the soccer association at the time). Needless to say, he never showed his face at our place again!>That's unbelievable. What a moron! He actually thought that was a funny line to use with children! No wonder you were so scared the other day.
> -- One step at a time. Just give yourself small, move-related goals for each day or every few days. You will get through this. And, the nice thing is is that you have a couple of months to get ready. So, that takes some of the pressure off. And, when it is over, you can breath a sigh of relief.
Yeah, I guess you're right. It's the only way to try to do it. It's overwhelming to me right now because I'm looking at everything that will need to be done. I just can't wait for it to be over though.
> -- They have been a bit better lately. The heads have come out of the sand a bit. I have, for the most part, always been so active and upbeat that they just aren't used to it. They tend to depend on me for calm reassurance and positive reinforcement, especially my mom and my younger brother. My younger brother can not handle it when I am sick. He gets so upset. I think if my mom would just accept her dysthamia, then she would be more empathetic. But, as far as she's concerned, that's what life is all about and you just keep muddling through. I know it must be hard for a parent when one of their children goes through any illness. The need and instinct to protect and make everything better is so strong in a lot of parents.
It definitely takes time for them to adjust if your role in the family has changed. I was never really the caretaker in my family. I bet it's hard to be a parent - knowing when to step in and when to step back esp. when you care so much. It's too bad that your mom can't recognize her condition and seek to improve her life but there's even more of a stigma for people in her generation (in terms of how they perceive it).
> -- I'm hoping he can help. He seems to have quite a following, so he must be doing something right.
It's so appealing to believe that someone can just wave their hand or say a magical spell and all of our problems will instantly disappear. I would love to experience that kind of miracle for so many reasons. If he helps you, you have to give me his contact info!
Take care,
Kara
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