Posted by alexandra_k on February 19, 2005, at 19:30:53
In reply to Mean people, posted by PhoenixGirl on February 19, 2005, at 19:20:39
I can't say I have ever got that sort of reception. But I also have to say that I have never posted to that site and probably never will. I find that the older, ahem, I mean the *more mature* people are the more they *typically* tend to be fairly understanding and a whole heap less likely to bitch behind your back. That is the issue I have around a fair few people my age (I am 26). Not saying everyone does, but a fair few people tend to grow out of that. (Thank god, eh??)
I am sorry you had to go through that :-(
I do wonder just a little about what, if anything might have prompted them to start up like that (not saying that it was justified at all). I guess that what I am getting at is what sorts of posts you typically post when you aren't feeling too flash.
Every now and then people have a really bad day or whatever, and sometimes people post about that. But another thing you can do (something I am trying to do myself) is to post brief supportive posts to others when I am pretty bad myself. Or at least to post 3 or 4 or 5 of those *before* I have a bit of a rave. Because it is part of life that if people are down a lot then it is draining for others to be around that a lot. The beauty of writing is that people can't see the tears streaming down your face, or the numbness. They can't see that you are *not* okay. You can support others.
And the more you to that for others the more likely they are to read your posts and give you that support back.
Once again, I don't think their response was very nice and I would hate to go through that. I hope you are okay? Does it seem better here?
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