Posted by sunny10 on February 18, 2005, at 10:26:48
In reply to Re: being farmed out » NikkiT2, posted by AuntieMel on February 18, 2005, at 9:18:02
I come from a divorced family (never met my dad- he left when mom was pregnant with me- I have two older siblings from another father; that first husband beat my mother and brother- mom divorced him when she was pregnant with my sister). My own dad never married mom, but cancelled their engagement when he found out she was pregnant with me.
My mother had three kids to support on her own entirely. We were too much work for mom- she hated us, but put food on the table and a roof over our heads. Obviously there was daycare and summer camps- my mom lied when I was five and said I was six in order to send me to overnight camp with my siblings for three weeks. We went to overnight camps every year for three weeks out of each summer to give my mom a break and so she could take vacations at the beach without us for a couple of those weeks.
I myself am now divorced (hunh, go figure)... I bought the lie about being allowed to "stay home to raise the kids" in the huose with the white picket fence, a dog, a cat, and 2 children- which of course never happened.
My ex-husband went through MY savings, put 20,000 dollars on credit cards, bought everything for himself.
So, this issue of supporting a person? It doesn't go one way, and it certainly isn't simple. Each and every situation is different.
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