Posted by trucker on February 14, 2005, at 12:07:58
In reply to Candle - Skill For Anxiety Stress » trucker, posted by corafree on February 14, 2005, at 10:24:59
when i got a new T the second session she asked me what i'd like to work on... well... i want to feel better about myself.. IT IS THE ROOT.. the weight, depression, anxiety, is the result of abuse, from mommy (the enabler) and her mutts! long story.. she made me feel better almost emediatly.. and in parting she said to be kind to myself. some times we are our are own worst critics.. my words of love and faith for you my dear are be kind to your self.... LOVE YOU MORE!! don't settle for less.. there are no OPPES in JESUS, you are worthy of love and happiness. you must first love you!!!
GOD BLESS
TRUCKER
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> I use candles to help w/ anxiety, the flickering flame, warmth, and scent, to calm or center myself.
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> Currently in therapy because in past I put myself in position to allow men to hurt me very badly; like an addict, took it until I could no longer bare it. Wasted years, not sure; certainly know what I don't want in life.
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> Anyway, for me, looks cannot now be as important as what's in my heart, my soul, my best.
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> I admit being preoccupied w/ my looks as long as can remember. I am not saying that is what you do.
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> I just want to give less of what's on my surface; it's exhausting. We've got cosmetic perfection on TV and around every corner.
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> Somewhere beneath my looks, there is much, much more goodness and an ability to really 'be' more there for myself and those I meet. I want to quit depending on my looks to get what I want.
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> Again, I'm not saying you're like me, but your post made me think of this issue of mine, and thanks for bringing it back to my attention.
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> I am always a bit scared to trust now; myself and others.
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> I would never harm a person physically. I would never invade another person's mind or belongings w/ the awful sneaky intentions I've learned are out there.
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> I am tho', now, guilty of hurting people w/ my words, thinking honesty is the best policy; but taking too far it is brutal. Think began this behavior after I'd met w/ 'bad' characteristics above.
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> Now, I have to learn to be 'me'; hmmm ... maybe first time really.
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> I'm working on relationships in therapy and it's a u-no-what! cf
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