Posted by All Done on February 12, 2005, at 1:47:42
In reply to Support versus Education, posted by alexandra_k on February 11, 2005, at 20:11:42
Hmm...I seem to have a lot to say on this matter. Not entirely sure why, but I'll think about it.
>> Not just nauseating support that is never ending and doesn't help one progress from needing constant never ending support...Wow. Nauseating? Doesn't help? Maybe they aren't looking for progress at that moment, they just really, truly need a place for support?
>> If anyones can tell me *what* I did wrong here - if anything - I would be grateful...I'm not going to tell you what you did was wrong. FWIW, I'll just give you my feelings on the whole thing. (BTW, I read all the posts involved).
I once started a thread asking if I should ask my pdoc for a dx. I wasn’t sure I was ready to hear the "official" word regardless of what it might be. I most certainly wouldn’t have wanted another poster making the jump from what I say in my posts (as opposed to the whole "picture" of me that one might understand better IRL) to a possible dx. What I write about in my posts are just a part of what makes up me.
And if I already had a dx from a pdoc, it would make me a bit uncomfortable to have someone questioning it. Imagine if I posted that I was overweight and my doctor told me it was due to hypothyroidism and put me on medication to treat it. Then, I posted that I was really upset about my weight problem and I got a response with a link to information about diabetes, Overeaters Anonymous, Cushing’s Syndrome or anything else that might cause weight gain. If nothing else, I’d feel offended that my doctor, the one I chose and put my trust in, is being second guessed. And I'd feel offended if it was assumed I did not already research all the possibilities myself.
It is, of course, a whole other ball of wax if I had asked for opinions of the dx.
>> The poster could have done what they wanted with it but in this case they got MOST OFFENDEDDo you think at least part of her strong reaction may have stemmed from the fact that she has asked you on more than one occasion not to post to her? I read her post in response to your deleted posts and I’m not 100% sure whether she was more offended by what you were suggesting or the simple fact that you posted to her.
Don't get me wrong. I believe there is a time and place for posters to offer the kind of education you were trying to provide. An actual request for the information would be a good start, but in instances where there isn't a direct request, but it seems like it might be helpful to the poster anyway, I would first consider the emotional state of the poster and my own relationship with him or her (among a billion other things...but that's just me ;)).Not sure if any of this makes sense and I really hope I haven't been uncivil in trying to explain my thoughts. I don't feel very organized this evening.
Take care,
Laurie
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