Posted by Angielala on February 1, 2005, at 23:58:14
In reply to Feeling Horrible!!!, posted by Surely on February 1, 2005, at 23:13:28
Surely,
I know to your son it might seem like the end of the world, but it's so far from it.
This is a random story...
When I was 5 I cut my own bangs- right up to my forehead. My God Mother (my mother's sister) was babysitting me. Now my godmother is Bipolar and often gets caught up in other things when she depressed- which she was then... I know this because when I did it she started bawling her eyes out saying "She's going to kill me" I ended up telling my mom that my invisible friend "Freeda" did it. I remember the shock in my godmother's eyes... and the relief. I told my mom a few years ago about that and you know what my mom said, "Oh my God, how did you know I would have been mad at her".. then I explained that even then my mother didn't give my godmother a break. Things have changed today and my mom is my aunts main support... but I guess what I'm trying to say is: All little girls do it... especially when their parents make such a big deal about their hair. Also- my mother would have instantly gotten mad at my aunt for it, and if it wasn't for my little white lie, she would have also blown up.You should be happy about your health improving and (I'm hoping that you are trying to lose weight with your docs support) losing weight.
It's not going to matter in 40 years, it's not going to matter in 1 year.... in fact your son needs to chill out with this obsession with this hair. Beautiful hair is nice, but a child cutting it herself is normal... and a fun story to tell when you are older. It's not your fault. Your son needs to put less importance on his daughter's hair and start patting his mom on the back for the good work she's doing with her health.
Try to relax... get used to the idea that it was a mistake and in the grand scheme- hair is a minor issue- especially for such a little girl!
Let me know how you are doing.
~lala
(hope my story wasn't too boring or pointless :) )
> I just committed an unforgivable sin. I've been feeling so good the past week or so, and then I saw my doctor yesterday, and discovered that I've lost another 13 pounds, and that my health is getting better, and then tonight my little 5 year old granddaughter cut a 3 inch chunk off the bottom of her hair. She has been with me for a week, and it's very tiring to care for her, but my son went ballistic when I called him and told him what happened. He told me that he has been working on her hair for 5 years. Her hair is a light silky blonde, and curly, and reaches the bottom of her butt. But not any more. That made me crash so hard that there isn't enough left to burn. And my Xanax isn't helping. Would someone please tell me that in 40 or 50 years this won't matter?
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