Posted by Dinah on December 15, 2004, at 7:56:02
In reply to Nurse says end is near, posted by Dinah on December 13, 2004, at 12:40:53
My father died last night. In the end there were no choices to be made. He was in a coma when I got there, neurological impairment was obvious, and the only ways to prolong his life would have definitely violated his wishes.
It was as comfortable a way to go as you can have. At home with me and mother there most of the time. I had left to get a few hours sleep after having only slept 45 minutes the night before. They called me around 11 pm, but I didn't get back in time.
He wasn't in any pain or discomfort until late, and two half doses of morphine cleared that up. He never needed anymore.
Things degenerated into ugliness between my mother and I, but she apparently actually has forgiven me for it. She said we were both under stress and our ideas about what is best are different. In forgiveness she beats me hands down. But considering, we did ok together. The funeral now, I don't know...
I did have to do some of the care stuff because we couldn't find a nurse for Monday night. I'm so happy one was there last night. But my phobia wasn't involved.
I'm ok. I think that at some point, I'm not going to be ok. But I'm ok right now.
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