Posted by Emme on October 5, 2004, at 8:44:21
In reply to Re: The head count » Emme, posted by ron1953 on October 5, 2004, at 2:24:27
> We see most of the people we know only on the
> surface and have no idea what's going on inside.
> We just assume they're happy and well-adjusted.Yeah, that's true. It's easy to think everyone's got it together.
> If they are, that's great. But most people hide > behind a facade, whether they're happy or not.
> So often there's no way of knowing.I think that's where it's beneficial to tell friends that you've known a while and trust. A few people I know believe that psychotropic meds are oversprescribed. They don't say it, but you wonder if they think you should get off yours. But most don't. I've had some surprises pop out. When I let someone know, they'll come right on out with their own experiences. Turns out so-and-so has panic attacks, so-and-so is trying out Celexa, so and so has spent days immobilized.
Hence my general idea of the head count.
> Then there's > TV, where everybody's happy. I think I'll throw > mine out tomorrow.
You need to watch something a little more depressing. <joking> Maybe Law & Order. Or The Practice, where every other client pleads insanity.
> I'm trying to learn the difference between loneliness and simply being alone. They're not the same thing. I have been happy alone lots of times. Being "alone in a crowd" is the worst. My lonely times have been much more frequent and disturbing since my separation. I miss the companionship. We didn't necessarily have to be doing something together. It was comforting just knowing she was there. After 30 years, living alone is quite an adjustment.
I can only imagine how difficult that must be to get used to. Coming home to a solitary home where you didn't before. Do you at least get some distraction doing things with other people? Church or the gym or something?
Em
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