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Re: harder to bond online? my sucky life...(bad day) » alesta

Posted by JenStar on October 1, 2004, at 18:53:24

In reply to harder to bond online? my sucky life...(bad day), posted by alesta on October 1, 2004, at 15:53:08

hi Amy,
I'm sorry things are so rough! I hope it gets better. I guess for me it's easier to open up and share personal things on-line faster, but it's also easier to "drift away" because the computer is the medium of communication. I still really "like" some of the on-line people, even if I don't know them personally.

In real life I feel sometimes awkward about meeting people b/c of looks, gestures, body language, etc. (Like Dinah, I consider myself "ugly" even though I'm probably NOT...but honestly, I'll never be a supermodel!) Also in real life there is the added burden of doing things together physically and "hanging out" -- I mean, this is FUN -- but you have to get thru the intitial friendship stages of awkward silences and sharing and whether to hug or not and who picks up the bill for coffee and all that...and it gets great, but it takes time to get there. All that is bypassed on line! Of course, the physical friends can take care of a dog and hug you when you're sad and bring you a lasagna when you're sick and all that...and you can do all that for them too. I think it's ncie to have a mix of the two!

Anyway, I guess I think that online friendships can flourish if we work at it and put in the reading & typing time.

I hope your life gets easier. And I hope you get the friends you want here. :) I'm available for online friendship! :)

JenStar


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