Posted by Larry Hoover on October 1, 2004, at 11:14:33
In reply to Re: Gossip, posted by Larry Hoover on September 30, 2004, at 10:59:02
> I chose to confront the gossipmonger, and I have had a reply. We shall see where that leads.
I don't know where to begin, I am so upset.
The individual responsible for the gossip calls herself a protector, trying to "save [her] some grief". That worked so well that she had her mother take her to the hospital yesterday, and she did not return home. I'm sure she's overwhelmed with gratitude for your help.
And this, because you had a "feeling" about me? You said that you "coule (sic) have picked any name really" to include in your allegation. Of course, that's because there is no truth to what you have to say. Just your feeling. And because of that, yet another person is hurt, the name you picked out of the hat. Another innocent party gets caught up in the effects of your "feeling" about me.
You say you "just" wanted to save her from grief, and that you "simply" advised her "would be more power in ending things". You want to minimize the magnitude of your act. Why is that?
You see, if you really wanted to help, you'd have come to me first. You had no problem contacting me after I posted here. It's not like you didn't know how to do that.
I didn't say *only* come to me. The sequence of events, what you really did, does not fall in accord with your words. If you had come to me first, you'd perhaps have saved others from your unfounded allegations. I cannot begin to describe the havoc you have wrought in my life, and in Gabbi's. You cannot unring the bell.
Many people express affection for me on Babble, and I return it fully. Is that all there is to your feeling? Something like, 'That can't be good'?
Slander and libel have found their way into civil law because the taint of allegations cannot be removed. The remedies are not able to restore a reputation. The penalties do nothing more than make two parties hurt, and maybe make someone else think twice before they open their mouth.
I've been sprayed by a skunk, and now I stink. And there's nothing I can do about it. Thanks a lot.
I'm going to see my kids for the weekend. We plan to go to the fair. I hope they don't see me crying.
Lar
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