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Re: Well, son seems better Dinah

Posted by Larry Hoover on September 26, 2004, at 8:12:32

In reply to Well, son seems better, posted by Dinah on September 25, 2004, at 22:41:33

> Other than the fact that every time I mention my father he says "He's not doing *that* again, is he?" (trying to walk with a walker when no one is around)

I can understand why your son might not want to revisit a similar situation. Have you encouraged him to help formulate a new plan, if you find yourself in a similar situation? "What about next time we call for help, and just make sure grandpa is as comfortable as possible while we wait for them to come?" That sort of thing, you know? He might be afraid that he's going to be asked to repeat the same thing you just did together. Let him be involved in planning. Darn good life skill.

> And while I wish my hysterical outburst hadn't been so dramatic, I guess it's not the end of the world.

It was a very real and human response.

> My main concern with him is that I'm not real *enough* around him (because my parents were all too real), so I guess he got an extra dose of realness in one go.

I think you're being too analytical. Really. What can you learn from what did happen, to make any future situations more adaptive? Did you tell your dad that if he falls again, the emergency crews will be coming? (He could have broken his pelvis, for example, and that means heavy but hidden internal bleeding.) His frailty is the issue, not his thoughts.

Lar

 

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