Posted by Larry Hoover on August 31, 2004, at 11:12:54
In reply to Re: my thoughts...Worth a penny? You decide! :) » Larry Hoover, posted by JenStar on August 31, 2004, at 10:53:32
> And sometimes it's OK to let people know where our personal limits are, and that they are not allowed to step on them. An "I" statement is now always the best way to do this.
Actually, I think a boundary statement is the ultimate I statement.
> Of course I recognize that babble is goverened by a specific set of rules which don't necessarily allow for that!
Which is what I was addressing. This is Babble. Out there is out there.
> I think there are times when dealing with an irrational person that "I" statements are completely ineffective.Yes, but there are many options other than confrontation and labelling the behaviour, too. I don't want to see nice people getting blocked because they got swept up in a flood of emotion.
The concept of "feeding the troll" comes to mind. Ignoring a troll is truly the best tactic, although it might feel better to confront them.
> What do you think?
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> JenStarI've learned something while I'm here, I think. Learned the hard way, too. Feel free to follow in my footsteps. ;-)
Lar
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