Posted by mair on August 17, 2004, at 16:04:09
In reply to my daughter hates her new school... :(, posted by woolav on August 16, 2004, at 20:32:27
As hard as it may be, I think you have to accept that there will be bad days and hopefully good days, and that the jury really will be out for awhile on whether this new school will be good for your daughter or not. And really this issue doesn't just exist because you live in a town with a lousy public school. She could be going to a great public school, and still find the kids snooty and unapproachable. And while these kids may all know one another because they went to middle school together, I can guarantee that they aren't all friends and don't all like each other.
I think mothers have a particularly difficult time dealing with the unhappiness of teens, particularly girls. Given the proliferation of teen depression and eating disorders, it's hard not to worry too much and hover and it's hard not to react to every bit of unhappiness, and wonder how all the relationship problems will affect her self esteem. And I think with daughters, we probably tap into some of our own teen hang-ups.
It's sounds, however, like your daughter had friends at her old school. If she did, chances are she will develop friends at this school too - it might just take awhile.
Mair
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