Posted by JenStar on August 11, 2004, at 0:57:00
In reply to to all concerned..., posted by karen_kay on August 10, 2004, at 11:43:56
hi KK,
I hear you when you said there was no danger involved. I know it's fun too.But speaking as a manager (sorry, I have the manager hat on again...I promise this is the last post I'll make on this!) I have to point out that just because SOME employees find it fun to joke this way doesn't mean that ALL employees find it fun.
There may be one or two people really uncomfortable even if those people are not you & the guy involved; people who overheard it, etc. Those people could eventually be mad at YOU for perpetuating the environment that to THEM is becoming 'hostile.'
Second, I would be very concerned that the manager overheard & allowed it to go on without some kind of comment or follow-up. I think that the definition of "all in good fun" at work should just not include sexual jokes & references. It usually leads to trouble and hurt feelings somewhere down the road.
I may sound like a "stick in the mud" but I've always been a huge stickler for professional and corteous conduct.
Anyway, I guess I'd just ask you to be sure you're truly comfortable with this kind of behavior and treatment. If you're not, don't be afraid to speak up. Just because you joked about it once doesn't mean you have to continue to do it if you feel weird about it in the future.
I'm glad you're enjoying the job and I PROMISE I won't bug you about this again. It's just a total hot button for me and I couldn't resist. Sorry! Good luck to you.
JenStar
> first of all... this wasn't my supervisor. this was a fellow employee. second of all, in all honesty, i'm sure i said something along the ines of 'wanna go down to the basement' several times before he finally said 'little girl get down in the basement'... stop lecturing, ok, kk isn't all that innocent... (oh no, that sounds like a song title, doens't it? wait, i'm not a girl, not yet a woman... oops, i did it again... ok, i'm going to get some sleep now and that's all her songs i know, i think.. yeah, i'm sure that's all i know.)
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> thank you for being concerned, i appreciate it. but, there was a manager in the corner watching too. did i mention that? oh dear, this is actually sounding worse. no danger. just fun.
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