Posted by daisym on August 1, 2004, at 19:56:41
In reply to Sometimes I forget how lucky I am., posted by Dinah on August 1, 2004, at 18:40:02
I actually was bracing for a deluge of "oh no, be yourself completely" and thought I'd be the bad guy. I think the responses you've received are very practical.
And that was what I was going to say, "be practical." Think about it from the employer's viewpoint -- we know everyone is "spinning" and putting their best foot forward. So if you run into someone who doesn't, you have to wonder if this is their "best" what is their "regular"? I highly value what I consider self-preservation skills. Please don't tell me, your boss, that you missed an appointment with a client because you overslept. Tell me you were "running late" or "had an appointment." And for gosh sakes, don't ask me in an interview "how much hassle are those parents, really?"
I could tell you stories...
I want to see someone who thinks highly of their skills and knows what they would add to my team. I think OP got it right when she said phrase the truth in a positive way and don't offer up your weaknesses. I also want someone who respects the process enough to "dress up" at least a little, for the interview. It tells me they are willing to make an effort. People argue all the time, "but you are hiring me, not my outfit." But that isn't true in a way...we are hiring you to represent our company, perform tasks and be part of our employee retention program. I believe strongly that retention is hugely important, and I believe that everyone must play a part in that.
I think, Dinah, we are back to talking about social norms and how comfortable you are following them, or not. There are environments where I would never get a job in my heals and suit. And I don't care what the fashions are, you can't let your belly button, and other body parts, hang out in my office.
But my guess is you would do fine in an interview. Because I can't see you picking a company that didn't value what you had to offer. And references are a huge piece of why I hire someone. So, no worries.
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