Posted by Dinah on July 19, 2004, at 13:38:03
In reply to you know what?, posted by karen_kay on July 19, 2004, at 13:25:56
I think forgiveness is great, but it needs to be preceded by the request for forgiveness. Making amends, taking responsibility, etc.
And I don't want to be here if this is a place where I get the opportunity to learn to put up with provocation without letting my buttons be pressed. I'm sure it would be a very healthy thing, like a process group. But you'll notice I don't choose to be in a process group either. If that's what Babble was, I'd be out of here before you could say "Dr. Bob".
I won't share my feelings about whether I'm happy or not to see people go. I'll only say that I'm delighted to see people here if they want to be supportive, educational, etc - regardless of their past behavior. And that I'm a big fan of the block for those who don't share that goal. That's not specific to anyone in particular. Just a general policy statement on my part.
I suppose to be clear on who I am, I should add that when I was picked on in middle school, I felt as much rage towards those who stood by and did nothing as I did towards the bullies. The bullies couldn't have operated without the implicit cooperation of everyone else. And when my mother told me she was expelled for beating up the kids who were tormenting a Japanese child during WWII, I told her that she should be proud of that expulsion and frame that notice and hang it high.
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