Posted by fallsfall on July 10, 2004, at 21:07:03
In reply to Re: How do i get out?, posted by geri122 on July 10, 2004, at 17:01:53
Hi Geri,
I can hear how unhappy you are in your post, how you feel desperate to leave that house.
It sounds like the place you want to go could be a good place for you. Have you talked to your friend's mom and stepdad to see if they would be willing for you to live there? Having a good plan for a place to go is very important. You really need to be sure that this family would take you in before you can take many other steps.
So it sounds like you have looked into the legal aspects of moving out. I will assume that the information that you have is accurate for the state you live in. Maybe others would have additional information for you.
So, it sounds to me like it would be really important to get your parents to agree that moving out would be a good decision for you. I'm glad that you have tried to talk to your mother - that you have told her that you are so unhappy that you want to move out. I'm sorry that she didn't seem to understand. When you are sure that your friend's family will take you in, then explaining to your mother that you have already worked out a place to go may help her realize that you are really serious.
In the past you have said that you couldn't see a counselor because you didn't want your parents to know how you were feeling. Has that changed at all? It sounds like at this point that you *DO* want them to know how you are feeling. Perhaps they will take you more seriously if they understand the distress that you are in. At this point, I truly think that a counselor would be your best advocate - the person who would be best able to help you.
A counselor could do a couple of things:
They could help you understand why you are feeling what you are feeling right now.
They could help you figure out how to talk to your parents so that either things could change with them, or they would allow you to leave.
They could help you talk to your parents.
They might be aware of things that you could do to encourage your parents to listen (legal avenues, or social service avenues).
Geri, would your parents let you go to a counselor? If they won't pay for it (or whatever), you can go to see the counselor at your school (and that person might even be available in the summer).
Keep us informed, we care!
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