Posted by fallsfall on July 3, 2004, at 8:28:26
In reply to Ladies (and maybe guys)..I need your thoughts plz., posted by jay on July 2, 2004, at 19:33:11
She sits on her porch. You are her neighbor. Sometime when she is sitting on her porch you could arrange to be doing something outside, or take a walk around the block. Just say hi. Talk about the weather or the fireworks or say something brilliant like "I guess we're neighbors".
There is something special about neighbors. They see you on good days and bad. It is harder to hide from your neighbors. Neighbors *CAN* end up being a constant in your life - perhaps you tell them a little bit each day so they do know what is current in your life. It can help to be careful of boundaries, though - just because you are home doesn't mean that you want to see her, just because you are mowing your grass doesn't mean you want to have a 1 hour conversation. Neighbors can be great when you need an extra pair of hands (moving the couch to a different room, jumpstarting your car). And you can usually borrow a cup of sugar or a couple of eggs...
There *can* be something to the "Boy next door"... Familiarity breeds comfort, comfort breeds openness, openness breeds understanding. Or, if you aren't very compatable, not.
In my mind, good neighbors are more important than hot dates. If there is meant to be passion, it will grow in time (after all, you *do* know where to find her). If you push for passion and it doesn't work, then you will lose having a good neighbor (and it can be uncomfortable to be living next to someone you don't want to see).
You have an opportunity here. Enjoy it.
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