Posted by ghost on July 2, 2004, at 7:29:52
In reply to Re: Body issues at Work...advice please » Dr. Bob, posted by TexasChic on July 1, 2004, at 18:48:57
b2c,
as far as i know, rumors in the work place are not only childish, but they're grounds for harassment as well. i agree with talking to a supervisor. but if anyone confronts you about the rumor, i'd be inclined to tell them that it's none of their business, that it has no bearing on your work, and you don't like to be the subject of conversation. stand up for yourself.
i agree. it's YOUR BODY. and even if you WERE anorexic, it's none of their business. your private life is none of their business. even if it was a rumor about who you're dating or what you wore to work the day before, it's none of their business. period. there's no excuse for immaturity.
i hope all of it blows over soon.
incidentally, i know firsthand how damaging rumors can be. a rumor started that i had performed a sexual act on my boyfriend on the school bus in high school. i hadn't done it. (at worst, we kissed goodbye.) it got to the point of where the faculty were gossiping about it. (I had become friendly with my spanish teachcer who told me this.) eventually, they called 13 students from our bus down to the office and asked them all if we'd done it and seen it happen-- and of course they had. including the student with an assigned seat at the front of the bus, when we sat four from the back. so by the time they called *us* down to ask us if we'd done it, it didn't matter what we said. we were each suspended from the bus for a week (a big deal when you live 30 miles away from school and don't drive).
from that point on i've always told people that they need to stand up for themselves and pick and choose what you want people to say. if it could have an impact on your emotional health, then this is something that needs to be addressed before it gets out of hand.
it's YOUR body. stand up for yourself.
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