Posted by Racer on June 9, 2004, at 15:48:35
In reply to Trying a 10, not sure I really have it (long), posted by Racer on June 9, 2004, at 15:21:58
Three more positive things that occurred to me after the last one:
1.) I'm getting great email support and friendship from a couple of someones, and it provides a little distraction as well as direct support. You know who you are. Thank you.
2.) My husband is obviously pretty devastated by all this, but he's not only making every effort he can to be supportive, he's also making a big effort to learn how to be more supportive. And he's doing all this when I haven't been able to be very supportive towards him lately. So, I'm profoundly grateful to be married to the second most wonderful man on the planet.
3. Our marriage counselor is not only great just as a marriage counselor, helping me remember that good therapy is possible and helping us learn to communicate better and recognize how our behaviors are impacting the quality of our life together, but is also doing constructive things, too. She's picked a counselor for me, which is very reassuring to me, and today she assessed my current state and stated that she will call Dr EyeCandy and see if he'll talk to her about how they can coordinate my care better. (She suggested partial hospitalization as what she thinks I really need right now, but without insurance, that's not possible. I hate to think that in six months I'll still need it, and I hate to think that I need it now, but at least it's another thing I can look to as a possibility for future help.) (And, while none of us think he'll return her call, if he does it's a professional-professional communication, and maybe he'll recognize that this is not an adequate response by any external measure, let alone any internal measure on my part.) (And, of course, if he doesn't call her back, or calls her back and says that he just thinks that nothing will help me, this hope will probably cascade down into increased despair. Please, everyone, send "return calls" Dr EyeCandy's way, eh?)
So, I have a little more positive to look at than I expressed earlier.
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